“Who decides, yes, what counts as excessive? Who, indeed.”
(Jamie Hood, in: Kate Zambreno — Heroines, Semiotext(e), 2012/2024, p.8)

The publication (unloving you) is an exemplary investigation about the addressing of a person.

Extracting three-word chains from their initial context — be it diaries, letters, emails — and recontextualizing them into a list: a new rhythm emerges, a poetic yearning, a link of events unclear to the reader lingers in the back. Who is addressing or what is being addressed is of no relevance; the only relevance being the subject that has been baptized as You.
Just like Dick was killed by Chris Kraus because he became Dear Diary*, the addressee has now become You. A pronoun as a container for what the addresser needs it to be and an alternate to the subject that You has once been.
The I places itself: it has now become the lyrical I, whereas the addressed subject has become the diary-cal You. 

*“Dear Dick (…), I guess in a sense I’ve killed you. You’ve become Dear Diary (…)”
(Chris Kraus — I Love Dick, Serpent’s Tail Publishing, 2016, p.90)